When your child stops napping: the 5 stages of grief

Clare at Love, Life and Dirty Dishes offers a humorous take on that bittersweet milestone in a child’s development when they cease taking daytime naps and parents universally mourn the loss of precious me-time while at the same time feeling grateful for a more flexible timetable.

It happens to us all at some point.  The days suddenly get a whole lot longer when your darling child decides that sleep is for the weak, and there is far too much mayhem to be caused to have a daytime nap.

I appreciate that when kids drop their nap it’s a difficult time.  I’ve been through it.  twice. But I am happy to say I lived to tell the tale.  I came out the other side stronger.  Dare I say that it’s quite nice not to be constrained by nap time.  Although my house is a mess because I have a toddler and no time!  

Here to help you are the 5 stages of grief after nap times are no more.

Image of a cot mobile with the text When Kids Drop Their Naps: The 5 Stages of Grief


This cannot be happening.  It’s just a phase.  A weird blip.  Things will be back to normal next week.  We just need to persevere.  Consistence is the key.  I am not ready for this. You are not ready for this.  It’s simply not time yet.  You’re not old enough.  I had this lasting until you started school.  At least.


God dammit when am I ever going to have a hot cup of tea again.  We are going to be living in squalor because I won’t have time to clean.  And how the hell am I going to know what’s going on in Neighbours ever again. Seriously.  Why?  Why? Why?


Please sleep for Mummy.  I’ll let you watch Paw Patrol and eat chocolate biscuits in the lounge?  How about we go to soft play so you can run around and get really tired?  Just half an hour. Pleeeeeaaaassse.  Do you want to see Mummy cry?  


Wishing you would sleep so that I can have a break makes me a terrible mother.  But I liked things the way they were.  We had a routine.  I don’t like all this change.  Stop growing so fast. You’re not a baby anymore. Oh God, you’re going to be leaving home soon. *Sobs*


It’s okay, you can just help me clean.  It doesn’t matter that it will take twice as long because we have ALL day now. I’ll just read the spoilers for Neighbours.  It was just a guilty pleasure anyway.  At least we can go out at any time, without being tied down to your nap because you would be cranky without it.  Ok, you are still a bit cranky.  We’ll survive.

Of course once you have been through all of these stages and embraced your new life with very little time to drink a hot cup of tea, you may find yourself going through this process again in response to the impromptu ‘fell asleep in my dinner at 4:30 so I won’t be going to sleep until at least 10:30 tonight’ nap…

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About Claire Kirby

Claire is the blogger behind Life, Love and Dirty Dishes. A blog about the amusing side of parenting. Claire’s claim to fame is that she once spoke to Phillip Schofield on a Going Live phone in. Awesome, right? She with three boys; The Husband, Big (9), who never ever stops talking, and Little (5), who never ever stands still.
They live in a Lego house. They don’t really, but they have so much off the stuff they could probably build one.