The transition to secondary school can be a culture shock for many young people, accompanied with a host of new pressures and problems. During this period your child will require support to face the different challenges they are faced with. These challenges include peer pressure, body-confidence, and making new friends; all in an environment that simply doesn’t quit due to the constantly ‘switched on’ nature of young people, largely due to social media.
Dr Mahadev Jasti, of Priory’s Manchester Wellbeing Centre, explains: “For many 11-year-olds, this level of scrutiny is unchartered territory, and it’s vital for parents and carers to keep a close eye on any insecurities that might start to set in.”
With this in mind, the following top tips could help encourage the confidence and positivity your child needs to adjust and enjoy their secondary school experience.
Emphasise personal qualities over looks
Support your pre-teen’s talents and abilities that are unrelated to appearance – like sports, arts, Scouts, gaming and music, for example. Demonstrate an interest in their passions and pursuits, the things that make them who they are, and be sure to praise them regularly.
Be positive
Try to refrain from making critical remarks about your child’s body or fashion choices. By regularly complimenting your child, as they take their first steps into high school, you can show them that you’re on their side.
Be a positive role model
You may not realise it, but your pre-teen is keeping a close eye on your lifestyle, habits, and attitudes, whether or not they seem to cringe every time you speak. Pay attention to the example you are setting, and comments you might be making. If you’re constantly criticising your own perceived flaws and worrying what others think of you, so will they.
Be aware of what’s “on trend” – and choose your battles
You can maintain the idea that life is not all about looks whilst still recognising that it is natural for teenagers to want to wear the latest fashions and brands whilst trying to settle into a new environment. They should be allowed to embrace individual style (within the confines of a school uniform). Try not to turn every attempt your daughter makes to roll up a regulation school skirt into an all-out battle.
For those who continue to struggle to adjust, they may benefit from counselling. Priory’s Wellbeing Centres offer young people’s therapy which offers them a safe and supportive place to discuss their worries. It’s important for young people to feel comfortable in themselves and develop a confident and positive attitude.
Has your child successfully settled in to secondary school? Do you have any insights to share? Let us know in the comments.
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