Running a business from home around children is a double edged sword on many accounts. The biggest lure of running my own business is flexibility, work hardly ever gets in the way of being a parent. But being a parent and a business owner comes with a whole host of guilt. Hey I wear my guilt like a badge of honor (further reading | Guilt and Envy on JoanneDewberry.co.uk ) and do you know what it doesn’t have to be this way.
Sherry from The Confident Mother has this amazing article on guilt. As mums in business we suffer guilt but the idea of turning that guilt into a positive works well for me! Sherry asks “Are you not paying full attention to your children? And if the answer is no, if the guilt isn’t justified, stop wasting time feeling guilty.” I know my guilt isn’t justified at least 95% of the time and letting that go has to be added to my 2017 goals.
Can you work too much? And what effect does this have on your child? Laura from Max and Mummy says it perfectly when she points out why her situation works so well for and Max.
I can hold my hand up and say I’m that parent that sits in the park on her phone whilst her child plays. But I’m networking, talking to customers, securing a blog opportunity or something that will help our future financially. Also let’s face it, Max would rather play with someone his own age on the see-saw than me!
Hey Laura, always happy to ride on the see-saw with you! I talk a lot about tunnel vision and why you shouldn’t be derailed by others, you never know their family situation. Also I always feel it’s important to say when balancing a business/blog with being a parent what works for you won’t always work for other people.
Confidence comes in many forms. During an interview with Helen Packham, on Talented Ladies Club, she suggests the need to “find a way of working that meant I wasn’t blurring life and business and burning myself out in the process. I have found that having bullet proof boundaries, blocking my tasks for maximum mental focus and managing my energy rather than my time have been great for me to achieve the results I have whilst looking after my family.” What a great way to organise yourself. I always think I don’t have enough time and then I get annoyed with myself and feel I wasted it but in reality I probably don’t have enough energy (hey I’m getting on now!)
When we become a parent we instantly lose our ability to dress correctly, well I know I did *have you read the one about chicken knickers*! I put a lot more emphasis on clothing, their significance, meaning and genre, than I ever did before. I always end up feeling uncomfortable when I’m not in my regulation uniform of jeans and a t-shirt. Helen Reynolds Style asks Are YOU worth it? and do you know what I think I pretty much am! Helen says “if you are spending all of your time wearing clothes that you aren’t proud to be seen in, you are likely to hide yourself away and hope that no-one will catch you looking so terrible.” We mums in business are very guilty of this! Hiding behind our computers and studio styled head shots! *I see you*
Erin from Making Mumpreneurs Club, looks at how leaving your comfort zone can actually develop your confidence and small business. She says it perfectly with “a comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there” too true.
If you have any top tips regarding guilt and confidence around being a mum in business do share them in the comments below. Next month’s theme is about passive income I can’t be the only one who would like to set something up that makes them money again and again and again. Please do tweet your blog links to @CharlieMoos.