Christmas is one of the happiest occasions in our yearly calendar, one we all look forward to and a moment when family and friends are celebrated the world over.
We spend months of preparations, endless lists and a whole lot of thinking goes into this wonderful time of the year and yet it’s also a time when loss is felt deeply, it’s more acute now than ever because it’s supposed to be a happy time of year and you can’t find it in you to be happy.
I’d like to spare a thought for all of those who will not be enjoying this Christmas as a wholly joyful experience because of the pain of loss.
Each one of us knows somebody who will have experienced loss this year; a car accident, a lost battle against cancer, aging parents, families reforming after divorce, friends missing because of a move….
We lost dad several years ago and I remember chatting with a school mum soonafter whose father was killed in a fluke car crash. The first year is the hardest to get through because of all the firsts. First birthday without him, first anniversary, first Christmas, they’re all there to tease and upset and amplify your loss even more.
During this time of year we have our own emotions to cope with, plus those of our children, our partners, other family members — all this amid the shopping, cooking, social obligations and requirements of the season.
It’s always going to be hard but as the years pass by it does become easier, I promise.
So this post is for everyone out there who’s missing somebody this Christmas or adjusting to a change, BritMums send a special warm hug to you. We know it’s hard but we’re thinking of you and figuratively holding your hand until the new year.