Nobody ever said raising teens and tweens was a bed of roses. We all encounter challenges along the way. But sometimes it goes beyond challenging. It gets really, REALLY tough.
This month I’m featuring posts from a couple of my favourite bloggers, who I am proud to call friends, who are going through particularly tough times at the moment.
Nikki at Stressy Mummy says her younger son has always been ‘the one’ – the difficult and unpredictable one, but also the loving and super-intelligent one. In recent months, things have started to unravel and they are learning to cope and learning to function with a ‘new normal‘. My heart goes out to them.
My heart also goes out to Suzanne at 3 Children and It. Her eldest daughter hasn’t always been ‘the one’, but last year she noticed that she was starting to have some difficulties. NHS help couldn’t come quickly enough for her and she has been voluntarily admitted to a psychiatric unit for help with her depression. It is a moving and harrowing read for any parent with a child of similar age, but also an uplifting one. Both Suzanne and her daughter have been incredibly brave and hopefully they can look forward to a long and happy future as a family.
When your kids grow up, it’s hard to remember what you did before them. You still want to feel needed by them and you still define yourself as a parent above anything else. This is what Tara from Sticky Fingers is going through right now and I can so relate! Yes, I pack my son’s PE kit too, just to feel useful.
Over at Cornish Mum, Stevie is having similar issues. She feels like she is suffering from a premature empty nest syndrome, with her 10 and 12 year olds not needing her as much as they used to.
I’ve always enjoyed reading Mother in the Middle’s posts about her eldest son, because he is just a few weeks older than mine. There was a time when they seemed to be almost identical. As she looks forward to his 15th birthday, she remembers a time 15 years ago when she suddenly panicked about the idea of having a teenage boy. It sounds like she is doing a very good job and has a 15 year old son to be proud of!
Over at Siena Says, Jules has decided not to let her daughter be weighed at school as part of the National Child Measurement Programme. She knows she is bigger than average (which is not the same thing as overweight) and doesn’t want this highlighted to the class. The tween years can be tough and it’s not the right time for children worrying that they may be overweight.
Which brings me neatly on to my own daughter, over at MumofThree World. She has just turned 10 and I’ve recently noticed a little bit of flesh above her hips that wasn’t there before. It’s the start of puberty and I need to have The Talk, but I’m struggling. Is it just me?
And just to lighten the mood a bit, have you ever tried talking to a teenager about a boyfriend or girlfriend? Just Saying Mum has. Let’s just say we can all try to learn from her mistakes…
Best Dad I Can Be can always be relied on to bring humour into any situation, but his youngest son’s thoughts on mortality make sobering reading. Have you thought about how your or your other half would cope when the other dies? No, nor have I!
That’s all for this month. If you blog about teens or tweens, please add your post to the linky or tweet them to me for consideration for next month’s edition!