The post I want to highlight this month came from our Education Editor, Niki Carrick-Steel. Posting in response to our writing prompt – Talk about phobias – Niki came up with a brand new phobia which is understandable to anyone who has children or any young person who looks up to them. I won’t reveal her new phobia as it would be interesting to see if it stops you in your tracks as it did me.
Naturally, maybe, the new phobia actually stems from a very old one – the fear of failure (Atychiphobia).
Once very familiar with this phobia myself, I understand that paralysing, vomit inducing terror that can take over before trying something new or different. That was until I realised the fearful voices were not my own. Those voices telling me I couldn’t do it belonged to voices stretching back years and years. It seemed for every year of my life I would take on the opinion of yet another person and adopt their view of my abilities straight into my belief system.
This exhausting and destructive pattern was broken only when I met my personal fitness and life coach. Talking through all the things I could not do he asked the simple question:
“Who made that true?”
I was so convinced of my uselessness that it astounded me when someone asked to see the simple proof of what I was saying. Of course I could not find that proof and there began my road to recovery. Now I examine very carefully the labels anyone wants to put on my back and accept or reject them using what I know about myself – not what another person thinks they know about me.
I wish anyone struggling in this area the strength to break free of limiting beliefs.
And, again, not spoiling the finale to Niki’s post, and not that my opinion matters, but what I have seen and heard from Niki over the last few years, I would say she has little to fear.
So, if you read only one post this month, I am recommending Niki’s post: This mum has a brand new phobia.
Elsewhere, Niki can be found at:
Blog – Mama Elsie: Making it up as I go along
Twitter – http://twitter.com/MamaElsie3
Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/mamaelsie
Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/mamaelsie23/
See you next month with another pick from talented bloggers and writers aged 40+. And do join us if you would like a chance to have your blog or work regularly read for features on the Post-40 Bloggers’ content-rich website. We are always looking for quality posts to feature on the site and, of course, stand-out posts to fill this coveted BritMums spot every month!
In the meantime, have a fabulous Easter break.
My best, Mel
About Melinda Fargo
Melinda Fargo (‘Mel’) is the Editor-in-Chief of Post-40 Bloggers, a community website showcasing and featuring (free of charge) the talents of bloggers and writers aged 40+. She is a freelance writer, successful blogger (‘What Mel Did’), a newspaper columnist for the UK’s largest regional newspaper and an amateur photographer and public speaker. To pay the bills, she is a project management professional. A mother of four young adults, Melinda remains a widow, but will marry Denzel Washington after the sudden and unexpected disappearance of any of his wives.
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