Expat: On family & friendships

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Towards the end of summer an ole friend of mine visited from Trinidad. I didn’t realise how lonely I was feeling until it was time to say goodbye.  My heart broke and the tears came as I walked away. Being an expat has its blessing but there are times when we long the understanding that comes from years of shared experiences and insider knowledge. This is the plight of expat life, how to create real deep lasting friendships. My friend and I shared laughter that day. It felt good to be carefree for a while.  They say laughter lowers the blood pressure, reduces stress and boosts the immune system.  So, here’s friendships, laughter, and wellness this autumn. This October round-up looks at family and friendship for expats.


Friendship and Family


No matter how old we get that need for friendship never goes.  As an expat, it can be tricky to make friends at first. Depending on your experiences to date, you may be guarded about who you want to open up to. Emma at Wanderlust and Wet Wipes shares 21 great ways to make friends as an expat.


Her suggestions include blogging and social media, volunteering and exercise… really?!  Who knew. Pop on over and check out her fun and practical guide to making friends which is likely to turn out to the life line you need during those months and years when family can’t or will not visit

In her post the Silent Witness Jersey Girl  reveals, no amount of Skype calls can make up for the absence of extended family.  She says its best, ‘we will still love every minute of our life here but for a split second, we wish we could share it.’ I could totally relate to your feelings and I’m sure fellow expats will too.


A Carte De Séjour


Not as sexy as it sounds, A Carte De Séjour is a residency permit for which gives the holder the right to reside in France. If you come from an EU nation, you will not need it but what about the Brits in France post Brexit? This is the bugbear of expat life… changes in immigration policy. Complicated paper work can keep families apart.  It’s upsetting.  Natasha tells why she’s … not getting A Carte De Séjour.

What ever happened to the very first round of talks where the EU said anyone who is in France before 2019 will keep their EU status? I took that to mean…well, just that. I can come and go as I please thank you very much. No one is mentioning that now and even the British Embassy are suggesting you get a card, as quite frankly, no one knows what will happen’



Repat World


There comes a time then an expat may decide to return to their home country. What must that be like, after years of being way. Toni shares with us a day in her life from renovations to being tempted to pee in a bucket. It doesn’t get more personal than that.

She has some good news to share. No spoilers from me, I’ll leave it to you to find out.


I hope you enjoyed this month’s round-up. Do let me know if there are themes you would like to see covered.  Of course if you have a post you would to be considered for next month’s round-up, please email me on [email protected]  or DM me on Twitter.



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About Maria Tumolo

Maria Tumolo is a Trinidad-born Surrey based stay at home mum, blogger and aspiring published children’s book writer. She moved to England in 2001. She lived in Cambridgeshire for a few months before moving London, where she’s lived ever since. Prior to marriage and children, she earned a BA in English from The University of The West Indies, Trinidad 1998. Her career history has spanned from Libraries to Further Education.
Her blog The Tiger Tales explore topics such: expat parenting, education, mixed heritage family life, food and beauty. The way to her heart is a Trini Dalpuri Chicken Roti. 


  1. 27 September 2018 / 15:43

    The difficult thing about being a nomad is leaving friends and family behind. We spent so much time away seeking adventures and discovering new places that sometimes we forget that we are losing time with our loved ones.

    • 29 September 2018 / 16:02

      Thanks for stopping by Henry. It’s a blessing but can be bitter sweet this expat life.