Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? How was it? How do you navigate dating, when you are an expat these days? My husband and I were introduced by a mutual friend we had. Our first Valentine’s was sweet and the best I had ever had. The rest is history as they day. Now, as a married couple we don’t celebrate Valentines, out of mutual choice. We relish stealing a way to create our own time and space as a couple, when it’s less commercial to do so. Married, single or dating, how’s life and love for expats?
Through expat blogs, I realise that expat communities can be quite close knit. Sometimes I wish had that experience. I have friends from my home country, they’re not the ones I see or speak to on a regular basis. However, in close knit communities, it could be like living in a bubble.
Pamela in Beijing is adamant about Resisting the Expat Bubble She sees language as a way in for her extrovert daughters. She empowers them to learn the language of the land. All the while assessing her own ability to acclimatize to the country. She asks herself the deep question, ‘Is it really appropriate for me to impress my own ideals, norms and values onto a country that I have chosen to live in?’ Read her blog to find out her answer.
Yet, not matter how settled we are there are times when we want a taste of home. I remember the day I discovered Golden Ray cooking butter in Tooting Broadway market! It was a block of heaven. Immediately I was catapulted back to 1980’s Trinidad and the cooking meals that my grandmother created. Natasha says that in France you can find anything. If you don’t know were to find a particular item, there will be someone who knows where to find it. Although, she warns ‘…take no notice of the food police that frequent themselves on the English-speaking forums here in France.’ Read the blog to find out what is her British Bunker Supplies In France.
In her post, A Very Merry Un-Valentine’s Toni, she talks about how much calmer Valentine’s Day is in the UK. She says that in the UK, it seems to be more about romantic love, while in America, when her children were young, ‘…often asked to take cards or little gifts into school for their classmates.’ While in the UK she noted that ‘…Nothing required at school, no last minute card-buying for distant relatives and no themed decor.’
Valentine’s or not, who doesn’t luv a good wedding? Jersey girl talks about A big fat expat wedding she attended. When the invitation came, she was a reminder how special expat friendships are. She says, ‘…Everyone there, had been in their lives for years, been through ups and downs with them, but no one knew them for those 3 years like we did.
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