With that in mind, for this month’s round-up I’ve picked out male viewpoints on new parenthood, breastfeeding and miscarriage, thrown in a soupçon of opinion from some stay-at-home dads and garnished it all with two fathers’ thoughts on work travel and adventurous days out. Enjoy.
The joy and pain of becoming a dad (or trying to)
Let’s start this month with 80’s Dad, who has been posting missives from the front line of new fatherhood – his daughter was born in mid-October. The dad’s side of the birth story and the early days of parenthood isn’t told enough. Posts such as Paternity leave ends today underline that two weeks’ leave of absence just isn’t enough for many a modern father. Times have changed.
Honest by name, honest by nature. Mark over at The Honest Father is a newcomer to the parent blogging world. Nonetheless I’m already enjoying his refreshingly straight-talking approach to his experiences as a dad. Breastfeeding: Breast is best, but don’t be a tit about it! tells the dad’s perspective of watching his baby daughter struggle to feed naturally. Of course, it can be so traumatic for a mum when their baby is unable to breastfeed properly. But it’s no walk in the park for dads either.
In a similar vein, Bad Dadu writes about The odd journey of a man through miscarriage. It’s only really been in these past few years since the rise of parenting blogs that ordinary people have spoken out about their experiences of miscarriage. It’s important for women to know they are not alone in experiencing the trauma of miscarriage. However, it’s easily forgotten that it takes an emotional toll on men too.
Simon at Man vs Pink always has an interesting take on parenthood. A TV producer turned stay-at-home dad, he believes girls should aspire to more than traditional gender stereotypes – I wholeheartedly agree – and he’s never afraid to speak his mind. Should atheists send their kids to faith schools? poses some thought-provoking questions that are as relevant to religious parents as they are to atheists when it comes to making the momentous decision about which primary schools to apply to on behalf of our children.
Dan from One Man and his sprog is another stay-at-home-dad who has just celebrated his two-year SAHDiversary. (That’s a word, right?) In My family’s two-year role reversal, he muses about the ups and downs of being one of the small but growing number of dads who are their children’s primary carers.
There’s a certain stereotype that still persists about dads who travel a lot with work living the high life while mum and the kids struggle on at home. The reality is frequently anything but that. I travel a fair amount in my job and I’ve written about the loneliness of spending days on end shuttling backwards and forwards between airports, hotels and offices in soulless business parks. Phil over at Corporate Dad sums up the less glamorous reality of business travel and the importance of maximising home time in his post Travelling away from your family.
Dads do days out too and David from Potty Adventures focuses a lot of his writing on travelling adventures with his two under-threes. He recently wrote about hiking Snowdon’s Pyg Track. Now I’ve done that particular route before and while it’s not the most challenging mountain hike in the UK it’s not exactly a Sunday pub stroll – especially if you’re carrying a toddler on your back. I’ll never complain about being tired after a day at Legoland again!
And that’s it for this month. Do take a moment to look up all of the above and also the many other dads who would love to hear from you on their blogs.