Adoption and Fostering Round-up: NVR, CPV and PACE

Hello and welcome to the latest Adoption and Fostering Round-Up here on BritMums. We’ve been away for a little while, but we’re back and hope to bring you the best blogs out there.

So without further nattering, I’m going to get on and give you a load of lovely but varied links. 

In the adoption world, Dan Hughes is a name often spoke of. If you’ve never heard of him, look him up. As far as therapeutic parenting goes, he’s your man. And so I love this post from Adopt Mum about how one of the aspects of his PACE method works with educational professionals as well as children.

Now, not all bloggers who are adoptive parents blog about adoption. The Quirky Parent is one such blogger. I love this blog for it’s amazing activities and fun. I’m also the owner of one of Claire’s books! This particular post caught my eye – all about trampolining. Although not directly about adoption, I’ve found that trampolining is something that my own son will do when stressed and anxious, that rhythmic bouncing soothes and calms him. And, well, this place just looks like a whole heap of fun!

More fun over at The Family of Five, who in two posts shares what half term has been like. Part 1 looks very family orientated and Part 2 had a few tongue tickling episodes! I must find out if my two have ever had popping candy!

Now over at Blue Sky Fostering, a lovely post about the sound of a contented child. It’s made me think about my own children – and how the dulcet tones of my daughter’s tuneless singing often fill the house, often to the annoyance of her brother, and how happy she must be.

A little while ago it was Mother’s Day. A simple enough celebratory day right? Not always for adoptive families, who whilst celebrating ‘mum’, might also be remembering the loss of her. Many questions can arise about ‘my other mum’, ‘my birth mum’ and what she was or is like. And in some families there is no longer a mum. 4 Relative Strangers talks about what happened in their house around Mother’s Day, and why they’ll be doing double on Father’s Day instead.

It’s sometimes difficult to explain the complexities of a traumatised child, especially when on the outside they seem well-adjusted, settled and just like any other child…except they’ve been through a lot. If kids were dogs, would you understand? Learning to Be A Family asks that very question.

Non Violent Resistance (NVR). Heard of it? Frogotter has written about an Adoption UK course that recently ran, and how the role of Peaceful Protestor has taken that of policeman or victim.

Following on from NVR, here’s another term for you Child to Parent Violence or CPV. It’s during some of those violent moments that NVR might be used. Holes In The Wall is a blog that looks at Parent Abuse, and has lots of interesting blog posts but this one is the latest.

Finally, a small mention of The Adoption Social, where each week we have a blogging link-up called The Weekly Adoption Shout Out or #WASO. Whether you’re new to blogging and haven’t come across the Linky yet, interested in reading more about adoption, or just a bit nosy, come and have a look.