Teens & Tweens Round-up: Waiting for Independence Day!

The transition from child to adult starts with the tweens, perhaps around the age of ten. It stops whenever you feel your child becomes an adult. Legally, of course, that is at 18 years of age. Yet we all know many people in their mid-twenties (and much older) that we would hesitate to refer to as adults. I don’t feel like one myself some of the time! The theme, for this month’s round up is independence; the good, the bad and the ugly.

I’ll start with my own post on my After the Playground blog where I list some of the more unusual things that you can do at 18. Did you know that from the age of 18 you can donate your body to scientific research or work in a slaughter house? Well, you can but you may not want to!

It is around the age of 17 or 18 that your children may want to holiday without you, triggering unprecedented levels of anxiety and sleepless nights. The issue is cleverly explored by Jo at Mother of Teenagers where she documents some of the adventures she had as a young person and the feelings she has about her kids doing the same!  

We should also be mindful of our own role in our kid’s developing independence which is featured in a post at Kate on Thin Ice whilst the Thinking Parent explains that planning and prior discussion can help to avoid conflict about how much freedom they get. As parents, our ultimate fear is that something bad will happen when we are not with them and I was very moved by Gemma’s beautifully written personal account of an incident involving her daughter at Life with the Peppers. 

It is not just physical independence that takes place at this age but a developing independence of thought also, and a very interesting post at Falcondale Life explores the issues of discussing current affairs with your kids. 

On a lighter note, teens and tweens are such good company! When I get the chance to spend the day with my own three I leap at the chance and this lovely post at Ali’s Upside Down World shows that I am not alone. I am also on a mission to find holidays and days out that tweens and teens will enjoy with their family and this great post about skiing holidays at Family Makes was just what I was looking for! On the subject of holidays, I’d like to share my own thoughts on holidaying with your tweens and teens.

Finally, I discovered two lovely posts about tweens and their newly found freedom. The first is at Teacup Toria in the form of a letter to her 11 year old son as he turns 11. The second is a hilarious list of things by Buzy Mum that we, as parents, do to annoy our 10 year olds without even trying. Read it, I bet you’ve done most of them, I know I have!

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About Sharon Parry

Sharon is a Mum to three fabulous tween and teen daughters. After leaving a scientific academic career to raise her family she discovered the world of writing which ultimately led to her launching her blog http://www.aftertheplayground.com in early 2016.
As a veteran of the parenting scene, you’d think she’d know what she was doing by now. She doesn’t. Instead, she is gradually adjusting to parenting teens and adult children and will probably become an expert shortly after her youngest leaves home. She shares her experiences of defining this fascinating stage of motherhood (and of herself) on her blog and at @DrSharonParry1.


  1. 07 February 2017 / 22:57

    Thanks for featuring me Sharon! You’ve made my week xx

  2. 09 February 2017 / 22:39

    Thanks for the shout out Sharon. x

  3. 16 March 2017 / 12:16

    Thanks for including me Sharon, I’ve only just spotted it haha!

    • Sharon
      16 March 2017 / 19:40

      No problem xx