Teen & Tween Round-up: Boundaries & birthdays

teen boy with ipad miniWell the summer is finally upon us – are we all looking forward to a break from school? Here in teen and tween world we’ve got girls pushing against boundaries, boys turning 13 and young adults continuing to confuse their parents on a daily basis. Read on to find out more about what the BritMums teen and tween bloggers and their kids have been up to over the last month.

Kelly, who writes at Chasing Dragonflies, is fairly new to the blogging scene and I am proud to call her my friend. She writes about the toughest thing of all – the death of her 12 year old daughter. More than a year on, she finds she is struggling to cope with her younger daughter’s grief and acceptance of her big sister’s death. Kelly writes so beautifully, but get those tissues at the ready!

Kate on Thin Ice shares a difficult experience with her daughter – who is settling in to a new school (or not, as the case may be). When her daughter walks out of school and goes home without anyone knowing where she is, whose responsibility is that? Should the school be tightening up on safeguarding?

I’ve been writing this round-up for over a year now and have never had a post on that most obvious factor of puberty – periods. It’s over to Kate On Thin Ice again, who reflects on her own experiences as a teenager growing up and sees the changes in her daughter as she awaits ‘starting’.

The world of friendship and technology is fraught for teens and tweens, and the landscape is changing all the time. As a parent, I really appreciate this sound advice on texting for teens and tweens from Raising Digital Natives. Well worth a read!

The ‘turning 13’ post has become something of a tradition here on the teen and tween round-up as one by one our sons and daughters pass over from the tween years and into teen-dom. And this month it’s my turn! Eeek! I am writing this on my son’s 13th birthday and I must admit I’m feeling quite strange about the whole thing. I try to gather my thoughts on those 13 years as best I can though.

And I’m not the only one with a child turning 13 this month. I love this post from Vickie at 29 Year Old Mama, who looks back over her son’s 13 years and wonders why she didn’t appreciate him more and enjoy those precious times. I love that she says ‘Please do not think I am struggling to love you’. I think all parents of 12 and 13 year olds know exactly what she means with those words.

Sunlit Brit is new to the round-up (welcome!). Her son crossed the line into the teen years a few months back and, after lulling them into a false sense of security that he was still normal, he has now transformed into a grunting, uncommunicative teen. Have a read and a laugh – either be grateful that you don’t have this to deal with or sigh in recognition.

Nobody writes better about teens and tweens than Suzanne at 3 Children and It. There were so many posts of hers I could have shared this month, but with the summer holidays just around the corner, I decided on this one – do family holidays get any easier or better when your kids get bigger? I’m sure parents of toddlers and infant school kids will THINK they know the answer, but I’m sorry to say that only parents of teens and tweens DO know the answer (and it might not be the one you’re looking for!).

Do you know how to break into a cash box? If so, Izzie from The World According to Izzie would love to hear from you. Although her twin daughters are technically now adults (they’re 19), they continue to confuse Izzie on a daily basis. I was hoping the old ‘oh yeah, sorry, I meant to call you’ would be gone around 14 or 15, but it appears not. Looks like we’ve all got a long wait until our lives reach something approaching normality!

The Mum Blog’s ‘little boy’ is setting off on his first holiday abroad without any adults. He might technically be an adult himself, but letting go doesn’t get any easier – his mum feels she has spent his entire teenage years holding her breath as each scary milestone passed. I think she sums up how we all feel – because they might not be toddlers any more, but they’re still your babies.

He’s not the only one setting off on his travels. Jacqui at Chelsea Buns & Long Runs is struggling to deal with the idea of her younger son travelling alone to work for a charity in a remote community. It will be an amazing experience for him, but it understandably doesn’t stop Jacqui from worrying.

That’s about all for this month. If you’d like to be included in next months’ round-up, feel free to share your links. And if you can’t wait until then – please add them to the linky below!



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About Sarah Wood

Sarah is mum to a teenage boy and a tween boy and girl. When it comes to primary school stuff, she’s got it sussed. But she’s realising that as secondary school and puberty hit, she’s still got a lot to learn!
Between tweeting, blogging and parenting, Sarah is a freelance PR and copywriter, who still finds time to run long distances and eat a lot of chocolate. It doesn’t leave much time for housework.

3 Comments

  1. 07 July 2014 / 10:06

    What a fabulous lot of posts for me to read this month! And a lot of new ones too 🙂 Thanks for sharing mine and for being so complimentary x

  2. 07 July 2014 / 12:10

    You’re very welcome, Suzanne, much deserved! There certainly are a few new bloggers this month, which is great to see 🙂 x

  3. 23 July 2014 / 14:44

    Interesting reminder, as I have an 11 year old who’s almost at the pre-teen stage. I also have an 18 and a 21 year old (yes) and I’m currently blogging about the challenges at that end of the teen spectrum – when to stand back. It’s incredibly hard not to give them “the benefit” of your experience all the time, and to let them make mistakes without saying (or implying) “I told you so”. I am finding myself becoming THAT mother – fussing when they’re telling me not to, lying awake at night wondering if they’re in and whether they’ve et the alarm etc. I’m even getting on my own nerves.