Saturday Night vs. Blogging

helloitsgemma BMIt’s Saturday night, there are other places I could be; a restaurant, cocktail bar, even the pub around the corner. If I had a babysitter or possibly a social life. Instead, I am fixing broken links on my blog. Apparently, Google doesn’t like broken links and for some unfathomable reason, I care too much what Google likes.

Saturday nights are less the social pinnacle of the week than perhaps, they once were. Is it OK to devote a perfectly good weekend evening to appeasing the deity of Google?

The alternative is talking to my partner over a bottle of wine and takeaway. Then settling down together, to watch a meaningful Scandinavian crime drama and spotting props from Ikea.

On this particular Saturday, I’ve read an article in the paper concerning the importance of finding child free time with your partner. Not content with giving us dark TV crime and jumper obsessions. Scandinavians are leading the way on improving relationships. The Norwegian Government has encouraged parents to take up ‘date nights’ in a bid to combat rising divorce rates. I suspect they don’t fund the babysitters (Being Scandinavian they probably will eventually).

The importance of quality time with your partner is, of course, supported by various experts. As I tweak another link, I can see that makes sense, time out of the domestic front-line. It doesn’t have to be outside of the home, it could be a bottle of wine and take away, quality time together, except there’s the children.

We’ve evolved as family units, our children are more central, we enjoy more time together as a family to the exclusion of parent relationships. My son is in bed later, than he would have been a generation ago. Saturday evening settling to watch a family film, thinking you’ve ticked a quality parenting box, it seems that’s to the detriment of your relationship. Children infringe on adult time (who knew?).

My Saturday evening, is being claimed by Date Night and Quality Family Time, both worthy causes. However, once Google is appeased there is a ‘presence’ to maintain across various social media ‘platforms’, posts to write, artful photographs to upload, other blogs to read, plugins to update. Sometimes, I think, it requires the logistics of a particularly sophisticated Scandinavian serial killer. Thankfully, there is a lack of research into the impact of blogging and family life.

Is there anyone out there who gets it all right? Probably, not. There are better ways to spend a weekend evening. No matter how cleverly it rearranges and themes, its primary coloured letters, Google does not make my day. Snuggling on the sofa with my family, snacks and a Pixar film does. In a blink of an eye my child will be a teenager and either out or shut in his bedroom. Then it will just be me and the other half. Best make an effort now then and “Date Night” might make a nice post.

How do you spend your Saturday Night?

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She is an older not wiser, mother of one small boy. Gemma always has painted toe nails and enjoys cake.

13 Comments

  1. 26 March 2014 / 18:29

    Loved this…. your writing is addictive Gemma. Saturdays? A good movie usually, or a book.

    • Gemma
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      25 April 2014 / 15:15

      Thank you so much. Can’t beat a movie on Saturday night.

  2. 27 March 2014 / 10:25

    I love this article! I also read something in a paper about not worrying so much if your child is happy and in fact you should worry more about pleasing your other half than your child! Can you imagine 😉

    Saturday nights for us are wine/tv/sofa night with the kids in bed. (In fact most nights are now that we’ve started watching the American Office!) But it’s not the same as going out. We had a ‘date night’ a few saturdays ago and we actually talked. Proper talking, not just “what did you do today, dear?” It was great and we don’t do it enough, if we get a baby sitter it tends to be for something else, Birthday party, wedding, etc. which isn’t the same, as “you and me” time I don’t think?

    Anyway, thank you for this, I enjoyed it! xx

    • Gemma
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      25 April 2014 / 15:16

      I can’t imagine! ha!
      Ah date night on a Saturday! how lovely.

  3. 27 March 2014 / 10:42

    I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. My husband and I are having a few issues an I think if I wod just put down my phone, stop blogging at least one day a week and just “let go”, things wod start improving… I just hope that it isn’t too late… Great post!

    • Gemma
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      25 April 2014 / 15:17

      Think it’s so easy to get immersed in blogging, there is always one more thing to do… you are not alone!
      hope things improve x

  4. 31 March 2014 / 18:58

    Lovely post! And I’m with you – however much I love blogging and social media, I’m always mindful of how much it’s impacting my life and how much of my time it’s taking up. Last half term I left my phone in my bag every time we went to a park. I KNOW! And even now, some days I don’t tweet at all! *sharp intake of breath 😉

    • Gemma
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      25 April 2014 / 15:19

      *amaze balls* not checking twitter from the park??

      Seriously, you do right and I should so do more of this.

  5. What a great idea to have Gemma as a columnist – Congratulations to all you geniuses (inc her obvs) involved! I’m a bit scared of Date nights. My friends keep encouraging me to ‘get out there’ again – but it hasn’t worked out too well yet has it? So if you have a husband at home, a half decent partner even, make the most of them. Yes, your child will be older in the blink of an eye, but so will you (take it from one who knows) and so will he 😉 X

    • Gemma
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      25 April 2014 / 15:20

      Wise words!
      lots of lovely things about being single – enjoy your space, it will happen when you are ready – you are a wise and wonderful woman.

  6. 07 April 2014 / 19:21

    Great to see Gemma here as a columnist! *waves* I definitely had periods of my life where my blog completely took over and consumed almost all of my thoughts. So although it’s a cliche, I agree: it’s good to set aside quality time with your partner. A bit. 🙂

    • Gemma
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      25 April 2014 / 15:20

      *waves* just a bit! 😉