Bad Mums Round-up: Imperfection, failure and guilt

This round-up is not for everyone. If you sail through motherhood from one Facebook or Pinterest photo opportunity to the next, pass. If you’re married to a domestic god and your little angels never do anything wrong, don’t bookmark this roundup.

Corner of shame

This brutally honest corner of shame is aimed at those of us for whom the parenting journey is not always covered with scented rose petals: the imperfect, stroppy, grumbling and dissatisfied mums among us who find it all a bit of a struggle to be honest. The online hide out is for mums who swear occasionally, shout quite often, drink wine with alarming regularity and tend to call a spade a spade – it’s a place to confess, admit to your failures and lick your wounds in the company of other bad mums.

So, every month from now on, I will be looking for mums who make me feel, if not better about myself, then at least more human. If you’ve had a bad mum moment or feel a bit wobbly about your parenting, share your shortcomings– no one will raise their eyebrows, tut-tut or feel sorry for you. They may laugh, but it will be with you, not at you.
So, join in and send me your posts on chenekoscielny@gmail.com

LearnerMother laments her lack of personal space and the fact that her children use her as a human climbing frame. She doesn’t mind the cuddles, but admits to getting really p… off by the pulling at her hair “to see if it will get longer, fiddling with earrings, etc

The Mad House of Cats & Babies confesses that she doesn’t have an eye for making pretty things or whipping paper, beads and glue into a marvelous creation fit for Pinterest.  In fact, she HATES crafts with her children. I honestly thought I was the only mother lacking the crafting (and in my case – baking) gene.

Lunchboxworldblog has days (don’t we all) when she’s prone to shouting at her kids, zoning out and not listening to them because she’s preoccupied with something else and she also believes in the occasional spot of tough love.

As a newish mum Cleopatra struggles with the ‘ugly bits of parenting’
She really wasn’t expecting the neuroses that turn the most rational person into a confused, panicked mess – no one tells you, do they?

Nappies Inc worries that she may have already failed her 3-month-old daughter with her ‘vainness”.

Waterbirthplease asked mums to show her what they felt guilty about in the form of a photograph. The result? An awful lot of guilt over an awful lot of things – everything!

And last, but not least, expressionandconfession describes a typical ‘bad mummy day” of the kind most of us have (some more often than others)– and then goes on to list the five favourite things that get her through such a day. Coffee is top of my list too.

Are you ready to confess? If you have an imperfect parenting moment you’d like to share, a complaint or just a strop or tantrum you’d like to get out of your system, let me know.

About Chene Koscielny

Chené is a stroppy older mum who reflects on life and parenting – after 11 years of hit-and-miss motherhood, gut-wrenching guilt, endless frustration. She likes to add a shot of feminism. At 43, in the midst of raising an 11-, 8- and 4-year old, she’s finally found her voice (sort of), decided to enjoy her frantic life (most of the time) and to stick two fingers up to anyone, who tries to tell her what to think, say or do… (always!) She’s a journalist, communications consultant, writer and likes to drink Chardonnay and do Hot Yoga to relax (not at the same time obviously)

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