Expat Round-up: The experiences of being an expat parent

Parenting is challenging because there really is no one way to do it. We all have our ideas of what it takes to be a good parent. Question is; how do expat parents fare against different cultural beliefs, government policies and so on?  My beliefs have altered over the years. The ideals I had as single female newbie expat did not apply as a married older mum of two. This month’s round-up looks at the experiences being an expat parent.

 
 
 

More than exotic cuisine

New to the expat round-up is Pamela from the blog It Is Real. Pamela is British. As newly-weds she and her husband moved to China in 2011, so that he could do is masters in Beijing. In response to questions about her dreadlock hair, Pamela says the first sentence she learnt to say in Chinese was It is Real, hence the name of her blog.

Read her intriguing story about life in Beijing. In her piece on ‘life as an expat mum in china’ she states, ‘It seems that being Chinese has less to do with an individual’s place of birth and upbringing and everything to do with the shade of their skin.

 

The network

It was only after I became a parent I realised how important it was to have a support network. Emma seemed to get into the swing of things early. Reading her experiences as a new expat was delightful. In her open letter she shares all the ways expats can possibly meet and assist each other along the way. I especially like her advice to the ‘new expat woman…. You’ll make friends for life who will end up scattered all over the globe (think of the awesome future holidays).’

In my own piece I talk about finding my way as an expat parent.

 

Getting into the stride of things

I always enjoy reading blogs by Adele and I simply had to share her recent post, On ‘punishing myself as a parent’.  It will speak to any parent, expat or not. However, it is because she’s an expat, I felt it was poignant. 

After a challenging day with her daughters she came to the decision ‘I choose to forgive myself. I keep forgiving myself because a bad moment, a bad evening, week or even season doesn’t define me’. Sometimes we simply need to cut ourselves some slack.

 

How did your life change when you became an expat parent? What advice would you like to share with us? Please comment below.

Do let me know if there are themes you would like to see covered.  Of course if you have a post you would to be considered for next month’s round-up, please email me on xselph@hotmail.com  or DM me on Twitter.

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About Maria Tumolo

Maria Tumolo is a Trinidad-born Surrey based stay at home mum, blogger and aspiring published children’s book writer. She moved to England in 2001. She lived in Cambridgeshire for a few months before moving London, where she’s lived ever since. Prior to marriage and children, she earned a BA in English from The University of The West Indies, Trinidad 1998. Her career history has spanned from Libraries to Further Education. Her blog The Tiger Tales explore topics such: expat parenting, education, mixed heritage family life, food and beauty. The way to her heart is a Trini Dalpuri Chicken Roti. 

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