Health Round-up: When pregnancy is not the fairy-tale we thought it would be

Pregnancy is meant to be one of the most beautiful times in a woman’s life but for so many of us, this hasn’t been the case. The causes of distress in pregnancy are diverse but the consequences are always heartbreaking for the mothers affected.

Several BritMums bloggers have opened up about how pregnancy has been for them,  far from the fairy tale they had hoped for, a time filled with anxiety, fear and sadness.

Steph, a young mother in her twenties, and blogger at Raising Emily recounts her heartbreaking story of three miscarriages which had left her severely anxious in the wake of her pregnancy with Emily. Her story reverberates with so many mothers whose needs for understanding and reassurance after such traumatic events are often overlooked by health professionals and result in antenatal and then postnatal depression.

Lucy, from Mrs.HsFavouriteThings, went through the very similar experience of repeated miscarriages and heartbreak. She is very much on the journey at the moment, carrying a much loved rainbow baby boy. Lucy graciously reaches out to other mums finding themselves in that painful position and advises self care, building a support system which can carry you through the rough times, seeking professional help from organisations like The Miscarriage Association and believing in your own strength and resilience.

Harriet, from Toby and Roo, who has had personal experience of miscarriage herself, opens our eyes to a different reality on her blog, that of female couples for whom the ache of having a baby to call their own takes other forms but for whom the heartache of losing that precious hope is equally devastating.

Fi, from A Mum Track Mind, reminds us that Hyperemesis Gravidarum is a serious condition, which can affect gravely a pregnant woman, her physical and mental state and the life of her unborn baby. Fi advises anyone affected by the condition to seek immediate medical help, rest as much a possible and eat whatever little they can to preserve their strength. She also advises us, the onlookers, to never offer inept advice but to show sympathy and offer our support. Practical information for employers whose subordinates suffer from this dreadful condition can be found on Pregnancy Sickness Support.

For Hannah, from Budding Smiles, who is due any day now her second child, a baby girl, pregnancy hasn’t been a walk in the park either. Like many other expecting mothers, Hannah has been affected by severe pelvic pain or SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) which has left her with a limited number of birth options and the extra worry that those thoughts bring.

Lucy, from Hello Beautiful Bear, wrote a very informative post about gestational diabetes, of which she suffered during her pregnancy with Lily, and advises mothers recently diagnosed to:

(Do) not stress and enjoy your bump! 

Pretty soon you’ll have a beautiful baby and you’ll have new things to worry about like why their poo has gone a funny shade of green or whether the nursery is warm enough!

This is beautiful advice and something we wish wholeheartedly to all expectant mothers our there. We hope that, beyond all difficulties and heartache, what awaits you all is the hope of a beautiful and healthy baby which will bring you immeasurable joy.


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About Oana Papaconstantinou

Oana Papaconstantinou is a mum of 2 children who blogs at Mama's Haven on grief, travel, photography and reviews. Oana has had the life-altering experience of child loss, when Georgie, her 5 months baby boy died on leukaemia in July 2014. She has now made it her blog's mission to support people who have been equally affected by grief. Oana works from home in creative writing and social media support. She is on Twitter @MamasHaven and Instagram as mamashaven.

8 Responses to Health Round-up: When pregnancy is not the fairy-tale we thought it would be

  1. rebecca | AAUBlog 03 May 2016 at 12:41 #

    great round up of posts. It certainly is a tricker business than my younger self thought it would be

  2. Sara | mumturnedmom 03 May 2016 at 14:56 #

    Great round up Oana, great posts from a wonderful group of bloggers x

  3. Life as Mum 03 May 2016 at 20:43 #

    A great round up with fantastic bloggers too!

  4. Rebecca 03 May 2016 at 21:53 #

    Such a great round up of posts…. Pregnancy is a journey I totally took for granted before I knew what it entailed, everyone has such different experiences x

  5. Kelly Pattullo 03 May 2016 at 22:03 #

    Great round up of posts, I know I am finding it more difficult than I thought I would.

  6. Zoe Alicia 04 May 2016 at 09:13 #

    Great post Oana! I’m not even a mum, but I read most of these bloggers 😛 xx

  7. Cydney 04 May 2016 at 10:24 #

    What a great round up, really important issues covered here that so many women are unaware of. I’m lucky that i had such an easy pregnancy but i know if i were to have another one it could be completely different, good to know there’s support out there!

    Fantastic post, well done 🙂

    Cydney x

  8. Fritha Strickland 06 May 2016 at 11:39 #

    pregnancy can certainly not be the fairytale its sometimes cracked up to be. I think it’s important to share how difficult it can be, off to read some of these posts x