It seems I neglected to start a discussion this week over in the forum, so I have no fodder in the form of your wonderful input from which to construct a well-balanced, interesting, topical, thought-provoking post 😉 I wondered where all my BritMums emails had gone! So instead I will begin a new topic here, which you can join in with in the comments section if you feel so inclined.
Thinking about the direction of my blog recently (it is almost a year old now!), my interest has been piqued by the incredible bloggers who really put their heart and soul, and emotions, and histories (sometimes difficult) into writing, for the world to consume and comment on. It astonishes me how frank people can be about their problems, and I know there is some debate as to whether or not that is appropriate. I have to say that for me, whatever your stance on this issue, it has brought some superb writing to my attention. For it seems that when people really write from the heart, they write their absolute best content.
An extremely new blogger wrote this week about terrifying nightmares – her own – and I was moved to tears not only by the horrible situation she has rescued herself from, but by the beauty of her writing, which she has managed to sustain despite such a grim topic. Sometimes the night is overhwelming for a parent, containing, as it does, the possibility of abrupt awakenings, or unseen misdemeanors. It is also the time when our irrational fears get to take over: getting it all out onto a printed page is the oldest, and one of the best forms of therapy.
An emotionally truthful blog post also has the ability to put us into another person’s shoes, to see an issue from a completely different perspective. I have to confess to fears over my future ablilities to raise a teenaged girl, and this post about teenage pregnancy (and miscarriage) made me see the issue from a completely different angle. I hope I will remember my little girl and her feelings as she navigates the twisty path of growing up.
Then there is the advantage of receiving support and advice from your community. When you are tearing your hair out over your baby’s failure to thrive, support comes in the form of tips, physical support, and comforting words to help you haul yourself out of bed and carry on feeding. In this respect opening up can only help us. If you are honest with yourself, you have almost certainly experienced phases of liking one child more than another, and the guilt that this induces. But just a few comments of ‘Me too!’ or ‘It’ll pass’, are sufficient to quell the self-loathing and put you back on the road to sanity 😉
Finally, the best type of therapy: laughter. When all else fails, and blogging feels like an outpouring of grief or stress, just occasionally a really good laugh puts it all into perspective!
What do you think? Are you a fan of raw emotion in public blogging? Or should we all keep a stiffer upper lip 😉 Debate, people!