6 tips on how to have the #TeenTalk #ad

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It’s rare that a parent looks at his or her adorable baby slumbering in a cot or cheeky toddler romping around the sandpit and thinks: “I can’t wait until a few years’ time when my baby is a teen and we can have That Chat.” We know what we mean by That Chat, don’t we? The Teen Talk.

While it’s an exciting time, we may not feel as prepared as we’d like. We’re not alone.

Research by Boots UK reveals:

  • 1 in 5 parents are unsure about how to start the puberty conversation
  • 68% of parents find it difficult to approach puberty topics with their teen, so much so that quarter avoid the #TeenTalk entirely
  • 33% of parents wish they could talk more openly with their teens

BritMums is working in a paid relationship with Boots UK and P&G on their #TeenTalk campaign, which aims to help parents be more confident in talking with their teens. You can get additional advice and tips, and learn about special offers on trusted products on the Boots #TeenTalk site (http://www.boots.com/toiletries/teen-talk-).

So, what is the best way to approach the #TeenTalk? Here are BritMums’s six top tips:

Getting started early: Before they are teenagers

1. Don’t wait until they are actual teens. As icky as it seems, the earlier you get your children used to the idea of their bodies changing – and this being natural and normal – the better. As strange as it may seem to bring up the subject of periods with a six- or seven-year-old, teachers that we know say that they regularly have pupils who have their first period at eight or nine. And a fair proportion of these children have no idea what is happening, which can be a scary thing. Likewise, many boys have their first wet dream without knowing about them and can feel ashamed of their soiled pyjamas. Put their minds at ease before the worries appear.

2. Use language that is appropriate. If you’re talking to a seven year old, it’s better to say words that will take the edge off the fear of the unknown: “you may need to bath more often and use deodorant so you don’t smell” rather than “you may find that you sweat profusely causing unpleasant, sometimes even offensive, odour”. Older children can be ready for more sophisticated lanugage. In either case, be straightforward and don’t tiptoe around the subject matter — that can leave children confused rather than enlighted.

When talking to teens or children of any age

3. Get over your own embarrassment. No matter how squeamish we are about doing this, the Teen Talk has to be done. Practise in your head what you will cover and how you will cover certain subjects. Think of ways to introduce the subject – one BritMums contributor decided to browse the sanitary products shelves when out shopping with her two young daughters who, right on cue, asked what they were for….

4. Celebrate! Without resorting to New Age puberty rituals or designing a set of greetings cards, be positive about the changes. The Boots #TeenTalk guide is full of useful information for parents and kids alike, on everything from frequently asked questions to the kinds of products they may want to consider, such as shaving toiletries and deodorants.

5. Preparation, preparation, preparation: If you’re a mother talking to your daughter about puberty, have some self-down-to-earth, even humorous personal anecdotes about the first time you shaved your armpits, for example, or real-world examples of dealing with your period at school. If you’re a dad, talking to his son, try to have a not-too-humiliating riff on when your voice broke.

6. Don’t be afraid to turn to the experts. Life as a teenager has moved on, as have personal-care products and other aspects of being a teen today. It’s a good idea to do a bit of formal research into the subject (thank you, internet!), even brushing up on the biological developments, before you tackle the Teen Talk. Some books might help your child become comfortable with the idea of puberty – such as The Boy’s Body Book written by a professional comedian and nurse, What’s Happening to Me? (for girls and boys), The Girl GuideDoing It by Hannah Witton (for older kids), and of course classic fiction books like Are You There God, It’s Me Margaret? and Forever, by Judy Blume are tried-and-tested tomes that help educate kids while reminding even the embarrassing bits of the teen years are ok. 

This post is sponsored by Boots UK and P&G. All tips are BritMums own. Get more information on the #TeenTalk on the Boots UK site, including tips from a “teenologist”. And be sure to pick up your free #TeenTalk guide in Boots shops.

Tell us: What are your tips about having the #TeenTalk?

 

 

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7 Responses to 6 tips on how to have the #TeenTalk #ad

  1. Kate Sutton 01 June 2017 at 09:11 #

    I like the idea of talking to them about their bodies before they become teens – normalising what is, fundamentally, the most normal thing in the world. I always try to talk to my children with the most casual tone of voice so they don’t pick up any embarrassment from me, because I want them to feel they can talk freely about anything.

    • Jennifer Howze 01 June 2017 at 14:17 #

      Kate, you’re so right — you don’t want to give them the impression that becoming an adult and all the bodily changes are inherently embarrassing or something to be ashamed of. It can be positive!

  2. Sharon Parry 01 June 2017 at 09:12 #

    It’s so true that life as a teen has moved on. As parents we need to appreciate what it’s like to be a teen NOW rather than look back to our own adolescence.

    • Jennifer Howze 01 June 2017 at 14:16 #

      Such a great point. We can offer our own experience but also need to put ourselves in their shoes. x

  3. Kara 01 June 2017 at 12:42 #

    As the owner of two teenage boys I was surprised about the nerves that come with impending manhood, especially around the topic of shaving. I always thought that girls came off worst but they have a tough time too

    • Jennifer Howze 01 June 2017 at 14:16 #

      I think this is a very valid point. I remember when my husband had to have the shaving talk with my stepson. I was the youngest of 3 and we have a daughter together, so I never had to deal with boys turning into young men. I might need a #TeenTalk myself!

  4. Michelle Twin Mum 06 June 2017 at 15:36 #

    I didn’t even think about getting my girls to read a couple of Judy Blume books, that is genius. I adored her writing when I was young. Mich x

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