Hello everyone, and welcome back to my Health round-up. I hope you’ve all had a good February so far? I’ve been mostly dishing out Calpol and birthday cake to two very snotty little girls – I think we’ve had the same cold circulating since Christmas.
I set a theme for this month’s round-up, and as usual I’ve been bowled over with some fantastic blogs. I’ve read lots of posts in the past about childhood illnesses and conditions, and this made me wonder about the effect of our children’s health on our own. It’s not something we default to writing about – call it the selfless mother instinct – but it’s so important to share how we internalise things that are happening to our family.
So, my first pick comes from Alice at Living With A Jude, whose son Jude has Global Development Delay and severe learning difficulties. This post is an incredibly honest account of how Alice feels when Jude is on the cusp of a meltdown. Not surprisingly, she mentions feeling utterly exhausted and asks the question, “why me?” – something which I’m sure resonates with all of us when presented with a situation that we can’t magic away.
My next post is from Louise, who blogs at Little Hearts Big Love. Her daughter Jessica was born with half a working heart, and her blog focuses around what it’s like to be a heart parent. This post really hit me in the gut, as she describes feeling pure fear and vulnerability when she was told that her baby was unwell. I guarantee this one will stay with you.
Min from Single Mum Speaks fell prey to that god-awful infectious illness, Hand Foot and Mouth. Both of my children have had this and it’s distinctly unpleasant without being long-lasting or particularly dangerous. It’s just not fair though, is it? Our immune systems should unconditionally be upgraded to ‘superhero’ as soon as we fall pregnant, but sadly, sharing is caring and we often end up just as snotty and sleep deprived as our offspring.
How often do we spend so long looking at our children, that when we notice a change in their appearance we wonder how we ever could have missed it? Ann, from Rainbows Are Too Beautiful, has three autistic children. In this post, she writes about Anthony, and his weight loss. I can’t imagine how it must feel to have a “standard” set of daily concerns relating to a known condition, then have something else to contend with too. Ann takes everything in her stride, though, and this post is completely logical as well as engaging.
Sarah from Tammymum is next with the most informative, matter-of-fact and useful post about spending time on the children’s ward. She quite rightly points out that while it’s absolutely awful to have a child admitted to hospital, as soon as they’re “in” they’re receiving the best possible care and as parents, we have to then look after ourselves. Simple tips such as bringing a microwave meal rather than relying on expensive hospital café food, and using FaceTime to chat to the children who may be at home with your partner, are all featured in this fantastic post.
Chloe, over at The Adventures of an Allergy Mummy, has a son called Theo with multiple allergies. She confesses that her diet pre-Theo used to be less than squeaky clean, but having to cook meals around such a strict set of processes has completely changed her attitude towards food. Store cupboard flax seeds, anyone?
Nathalie at Intolerant Gourmand is also an allergy mummy, and this post to her son on the eve of his first day at school really touched me. My eldest daughter starts school this September and I’m already a bag of nerves about it, without having to take into account how the school might help to manage a health condition. I suppose we place so much trust in teachers in a school setting that having them “caretake” our children’s health from 9am to 3pm is just an extension of this – but it must be very scary waving our children off knowing the level of support they require.
My next post is from Laura, at Autumn’s Mummy. Laura talks very honestly about her mental health and experience with anxiety, including an awful panic attack when her daughter was taken ill and had to be admitted to hospital. So often when our children are poorly, we try to close down our emotions and go into autopilot so that we can focus on them getting better. But sometimes, this is literally impossible – and Laura’s post resonated with my own tendencies towards anxiety and heightened levels of stress.
When my daughter turned two, she broke her leg. Well, she actually broke both legs in a six week period, and one of my very first posts focused around this series of very unfortunate events, and the effect it had on my confidence as a mother.
Finally, what about when WE, the parents are ill? This post comes from Yvonne at Double The Monkey Business, but it’s actually written by her own mum. Yvonne survived HELLP, a life-threatening pregnancy condition. Here, her mum shares with us her experience of becoming a grandparent at the same time as being faced with terrible news about Yvonne’s health.
I’ll be back in March with my next round-up. If you’d like yours to be considered, you can email me at any time at firstname.lastname@example.org or tweet me a link via @mousemoo_metoo.