There’s something about autumn which always makes me realise the kids are growing up. They stop wearing shorts and suddenly there is an inch of sock on display when they wear trousers. Going up a year in school always make them seem bigger – especially when you see the new kids, whether reception or year 7. (And if your child has just started year 7, I do hope it’s going well!).
Not only are they getting bigger, but as they approach the end of their tween years, heading for the teens, a lot of kids are constantly at war with their parents or siblings. Instinctive Mum shares just what it’s like living with a tween through poetry.
I can so relate to this post from Tara at Sticky Fingers (although I wish I couldn’t!). She writes honestly about how her kids are always at loggerheads. As one child enters the tween years, suddenly the kids that were always best of friends are always at each others’ throats It’s a miserable time, let’s hope they grow out of it soon!
I am loving Tara and Sticky Fingers this month, because she’s written in praise of one of my very favourite tween/ teen activities. Scouts. Scouts is for girls as well as boys and it gives kids a taste of independence and adventure that they rarely get anywhere else. Read Tara’s post and tell me you don’t want to send your kids on camp right now!
Grand Theft Auto 5, an adult game, came out recently. There have been a number of posts around from people who wouldn’t let their kids play and (unbelievably, in my opinion), those who would. Scottish Mum writes about the reasons why she won’t let her tween boys play as well as the pressure from other children and other parents to play. What do you think?
Suzanne at 3 Children and It is one of my very favourite bloggers. She has a similar family to mine and I am always very interested in her ideas to try to get the kids to behave. Her latest scheme is giving each child an allowance linked to carrying out chores and good behaviour – and it seems to be working! I need to consider this one.
Over at MumofThree World, I have been pondering how to balance my 12 year old son’s need for independence with the rest of the family’s needs. Any suggestions would be most welcome!
We’ve got a first on the round-up today – our first coming out. Slummy Single Mummy talks about her fears for her teenage daughter (they didn’t include being gay) and her relief when she discovered she was upset because she was gay and didn’t know how to tell her mum.
Emma and 3 writes about her pride in her daughter recovering from injury, getting back to dancing and being fitted for her first pair of ballet pointes As a ballet mum myself, I look forward to this in the future. Dancing is such an amazing skill to have and it’s great to see teenagers so dedicated and sticking with it.
Emma and 3 also shares a completely different post. As a secondary school teacher, she knows more about teenagers and their reckless behaviour than many of us. She talks movingly about how one bit of risky behaviour or one silly mistake can have tragic consequences. A valuable lesson for parents and teenagers alike!
Shea from The Honey Badger of West London talks about a different sort of risky behaviour – about messages teenage girls are sharing about what they see as ‘romance’. In it there’s no place for a girl to say ‘no’, so Shea has come up with an alternative pledge. This should be spread far and wide!
Izzie Anderton is mum to 18 year old twin girls who get on very well together. So she’s not entirely sure how they ended up at universities eight hours apart Good luck with picking them up at Christmas, Izzie!
Homebakedonline writes so positively about her son turning 13 It’s great to hear that the teenage years don’t have to be traumatic ones for parents or young people.
As her eldest heads for his 18th birthday, Stressy Mummy writes a beautiful post on how we should all make the most of our children while they are still young. Those early years may seem hard and may seem to go on forever at the time, but when you look back you realise they’re gone in a flash and your children aren’t children any more.
I’m feeling quite inspired by Chelsea Mamma’s post on teens who think the world owes them a living She’s laying down the law and getting them to step away from the game consoles and do something a bit more useful!
Julia from I Carried a Watermelon has a toddler, but she remembers her own teen years clearly and already fears for her daughter’s teenage years. She writes movingly about an incident from her teens when her friends started leaving her out It seems incredible that she remembers it so clearly, yet the friends have no recollection of it at all. It makes me want to tell my school bully exactly what she did to me all those years ago!
That’s all from the teen and tween round-up this month. It’s great to see so many new contributors and such a huge range of posts. If you have a post to share, please add it to the linky below or why not submit it for next month?