I’m really pleased to be here writing this positively inspirational round-up again this month. You have probably noticed that the lovely Emma from Mama Syder has held the fort wonderfully for the last three months whilst I moved house and got myself sorted out. I’m pleased to report we are now settled in our new country home and our house sale has completed. As for Emma, I felt she did such a good job that I’ve asked her to join me as a job-share and we will alternate editing this monthly round-up.
It was apt that Emma offered to write this round-up when I put the shout-out back in May, she had recently written a post that had really struck me and I knew that when I next did this it would be the first post I’d want to mention. This month’s theme of love and marriage is dedicated to Mama Syder herself, this year she celebrates 24 years of marriage and you have to read this post, where she honestly shares the ups and downs of that time and leaves us with the reminder that we should not take our partner for granted, nor expect too much for none of us are perfect.
It is always good to have a reminder that we do not need to be perfect. Many of us set ourselves up to fail by having unrealistic expectations, especially of ourselves. This Love is… post on the Little Lilpad blog is a good reminder that when it comes to marriages and partnerships we just need to be perfect for our other half.
Talking of being perfect for your other half, Jayne at Mums the Word dedicates a post to her husband of seven years, it is great to read that far from the stereotypical seven year itch she feels the opposite and is blessed to have someone who understand her completely and she wants to face all the challenges that lay ahead in their shared future.
You don’t get to 10 years of being married and still happy without your partner being just a bit perfect for you. Donna at Mummy Central tells a touching story of how she met her husband 17 years ago and her friend Neil who acted as match maker sounds like a real diamond. It was my eleventh anniversary this year (but 19 years together) and I also wrote a soppy post to my dh about how we are just right for each other too.
A post I just have to direct you towards is ‘We’ve come a long way‘ from Penny at A Residence. Take a journey with her through the 15 years since she got together with Mr A and be inspired to relive your own relationship history. I’m definitely going to have to do this, it was excellent to look through Penny’s photos and see her grow up and change.
Our very own BritMums editor, Mari got married back in March and it was such fun reading about all her preparations but it was the letter she wrote to her husband-to-be on the morning of their wedding that really touched me. Have a read of Do you take this man?
In Mari’s letter she touches on one of the traditional vows of ‘in sickness and in health’ and it is with great admiration that I am reminded of this vow in every post I read from Tamsyn at Anecdotes of a Manic Mum, recently she attended a wedding and wrote to her beloved Alex about how it is to face situations like this without him by her side. Tamsyn is a true inspiration to me and to many.
My Two Mums posted a great blog a couple of months about entitled ‘It’s not always rosy‘ and it is good to see that bloggers are willing to be open and real about their relationships. The big things in life take their toll, theirs was having their child, yours might be a bereavement, major house move or career change. Whatever it is, making time for your partner and making sure you talk are the most important things. Thanks for the reminder ladies.
There is so much in the media about marriage and how it is changing and declining and of course divorce rates are soaring in recent years so I felt called to write a post on my own blog just recently urging people not to give up on their marriage and to really try to remember why they got married in the first place. Of course sometimes a marriage will come to an end but I would like to think that all options were explored first. There is a great set of comments on this post which are worth the read too.
Your spouse or life partner is so important, can I please urge you to tell them you love them tonight or if words are not your thing then do something that shows them. Even when we are not feeling the love sometimes we can kick-start our emotions by making a move!
Catch you in November, Emma will be here next month. Be blessed, Mich x