I want to get more mums into photographs with their children. In the studio, we often have mothers say they don’t want to be in any photos with their kids. “Oh, no, my hair is a mess” or “I’m not wearing the right clothes” – this in spite of the fact that we’ve advised them to do their hair and make up and to wear certain clothes before they came to the studio.
What they are really saying is, “I don’t like how my body looks right now and I’m not feeling very confident.” And do you know what I say to that?
Get over it.
Your kids really don’t care what you look like. I recently wrote a post about this on I Carried a Watermelon called “The Best Mother’s Day Gift”. The important thing is that your kids have photos of you in the future. Is it worth denying them that because you felt a little overweight or wrinkled? Trust me from years of experience, it’s nothing that good posing, good lighting and perhaps a little Photoshop couldn’t fix.
We had a mother and her daughter come into the studio a few weeks ago and, when we asked her to be in the pictures, she declined. We convinced her, but she said she definitely wouldn’t want any of the pictures with her in them, especially if it was a full-length photo (i.e. her whole body in the photo). Guess what image she walked away with to put big on her wall after her viewing? You guessed it: a full-length photo of her and her daughter.
So with my new mission in mind, I’ve been trawling the blogs to find pictures of mums with their daughters. And you know what? It hasn’t been easy to find many, unless the site is hosted by a photographer. As bloggers, it’s become clear to me that, in general, we write what we feel on the inside, but we show what we see on the outside, not really including our physical selves in that vision. So here is my challenge to you: this month, as a Mother’s Day present for yourself, get yourself photographed with your kids, whether it’s professional or if you have a partner or friend taking the photos. Just do it. Then please add your post to the linky below and show everyone how amazing you all look.
For inspiration, here are two blogs that I can share with you that are all about pictures of mums and their kids. The first is one called The Mothers by photographer Rebecca Lupton. On the blog, it tells the stories of different mothers, accompanied by pictures of them with their children. There are lots of images to inspire how you might want to be pictured with your kids.
The second is very aspirational (i.e. glam mummy alert!). It hails from America and it’s called The Glow. And it definitely does that!
If you’re worried about how you might look in photos with your children, here are a few posing tips for women that I thought might be helpful:
If you are carrying weight under your chin – have the photographer picture you from above, so that you are looking up, which stretches out the neck and makes you appear slimmer. If you sit down and the photographer is standing above you, it’s a good way to achieve this naturally.
If you don’t like your arms – Cover them up with a slimming colour like black or white. Don’t wear short-sleeved tops.
If you don’t like your legs – Hide them from view. Either take the photo from the waist up or pose yourself sitting on the ground with your children, with your legs out to the side. Or better yet, lie on your stomach and get the photographer to take the picture from floor level (this is a great pose for chins and people who are carrying weight on their middle, too).
If you don’t like your waist – Turn your body side-on to the camera, which immediately slims the waist. Put your weight on the leg that is away from the camera and bend the leg that is toward the camera. And if you want to cover up your stomach, carry your child (or one of your children) with their legs wrapped around your middle. It’s a great way to hide what you don’t want to show!
Two general no-nos are 1) try not to pose yourself facing square into the camera because this is unflattering for most people, unless you are Kate Moss, and 2) don’t wear baggy clothes. It won’t do you any favours in the photo as the camera won’t be able to see your gorgeous curves, which, in turn makes you look larger, not smaller. Also, why don’t you make a big thing out of being photographed with your kids? Get your hair and make-up done beforehand, as it doesn’t just affect how you look on the outside, but also how you feel on the inside. Here’s an example of a before/after from one of our Antoinette Boudoir shoots, so you can see the difference a little bit of help can make. If you’re worried about not looking like yourself, just ask your make-up artist for a natural look.
I hope that these tips are helpful for you. I’m really looking forward to seeing the links that you’re going to post below.