We spend months of preparations, endless lists and a whole lot of thinking goes into this wonderful time of the year and yet it’s also a time when loss is felt deeply, it’s more acute now than ever because it’s supposed to be a happy time of year and you can’t find it in you to be happy.
I’d like to spare a thought for all of those who will not be enjoying this Christmas because the pain of loss is too hard to bare.
Each one of us knows somebody who will have lost a dear one this year; a car accident, the shop assistant whose mother lost her battle against cancer, the parents in Conneticut who sent their children to school and never saw them again. I can’t imagine their pain this Christmas
We lost dad five years ago and as I was chatting with a school mum recently whose father was killed in a fluke car crash a month ago, the first year is the hardest to get through because of all the firsts. First birthday without him, first anniversary, first Christmas, they’re all there to tease and upset and amplify your loss even more.
It’s always going to be hard but as the years pass by it does become easier, I promise.
So this post is for everyone out there who’s missing somebody this Christmas, BritMums send a special warm hug to you, we know it’s hard but we’re thinking of you and holding your hand until the sun rises once again.